Casualties of war seems so impersonal, doesn’t it?
October 31st, 2005 by
cowgirljules
“Captain R@ymond Dw@yne H1ll II*, 39, of Turlock, CA gave his life in the line of duty serving in Operation Iraqi Freedom October 29, 2005 when an improvised explosive device detonated near his HMMWV south of Baghdad, Iraq. Ray was detached from the 1/***th Field Artillery Battalion in Oahu, HI to the 1/***th Infantry Regiment California Army National Guard. R@y believed wholeheartedly in his mission and the mission of the Coalition Forces.
His family was, is and will continue to be extremely proud of his decisions and performance as a US Army Captain. R@y knew of his support from home and last spoke with his family on 27 Oct 2005 via email, IM and telephone.
In a letter to his wife, R@y wrote:
“My heart aches for the time I am missing; missing important dates, events and special moments. I know you think I see this as just a big adventure and a care-free event for me. I admit I was willing to go. After all, this is what I have trained for, for the past 18 years. This, in a way, validates my being in the military and serving my country, providing a safer place for my family to live. If I did not go, someone else would have to. A man has to do what is right. This isn’t always the easiest thing or convenient for his family or himself. I have been called up to serve with my brothers, my fellow soldiers, for a cause that will have effects worldwide for years to come.”R@y was preceded in death by his mother @nita and is survived by his loving wife Den@ and daughters Bree@nna and @lyssa; Father 1SG (RET) R@ymond H1ll; and Brothers R0n, Russ and R0d.
A memorial is being setup to benefit the FSG (Family Support Group) of the 1/***th and 1/***th”
*Names altered to prevent unnecessary googling
The first time I had to run the two-mile for R0TC, I almost passed out. I didn’t know for years that it was exercise-induced asthma that was my problem, so I tried to tough it out. A complete stranger on that first run finished his and turned around and came back to run with me, talking me in. That was R@y.
This man stood up at my wedding and was a friend of both me and my ex-husband, although it was my ex that carried on the friendship when we got divorced.
I was the god-mother to his oldest daughter, even though I thought that was a silly role for an atheist. They really wanted my ex to do it, so I did too.
I’ve been trying today to get in touch with the other two who stood up for us, those friends that I seemed to keep when the chips were down. I left messages for one with his father. I’ll have to dig a little deeper for the other one, but he wasn’t as close to R@y.
Man, this really strikes home. For as many military people as I know, I’ve been lucky to stay remote from this war. The man I’m seeing now has had a few close calls, and it’s my personal opinion that he’s pressed his luck a few too many times. I don’t want to see him going back there (it would be as a contractor, but just as dangerous) but I know it’s not my say.
I don’t know what else to say; I’m not going to turn this into a condemnation of the war, because everyone that I know who has been there really believes in it. Including R@y.
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